Have I got this right?

1. You want to transform your relationship with stress with mindfulness meditation.

2. You know it will be good for you (90% of the people look up to meditate + you have had some success…!)

 …BUT, and it’s a big BUT…

Learning on your own is: 

Making you feel insecure

You’re never quite sure if you’re doing it right, not quite sure you’re doing the right type of meditation or what exactly you’re supposed to be doing (there is SO much out there!) and not quite sure you’re getting the kind of results you’re supposed to be getting. It’s also…  

Frustrating

You thought you’d feel calmer by now or at least succeeded in clearing your mind A LITTLE, but instead you’re thinking, thinking, thinking  (especially about the things you DON’T want to be thinking about!)and your thoughts seem so loud! You thought you’d be getting some A-ha moments, but on that front it’s pretty silent. You don’t want to give up (because you don’t give up and you know this is going to be good for you), but it feels like… 

Failure after failure

Instead of what you thought you’d get with meditation (calm, a clear mind, some insight and clarity), you keep facing these other challenges. Your mind goes on and on. You just want it to end. You’re falling asleep when you’re not meaning to and your body hurts! 

You end up stuck between thinking there’s something wrong with you really wanting to learn because you can see the benefits for others (plus – you like a challenge).

But learning by yourself? It’s not working out for you.

I totally get that (and I respect your honesty with yourself!). 

At the time of this writing I have been meditating for 10 years. I thank the heavens that along the way I have met some wonderful teachers who have been real with me about what the practice requires. Without them, I would have quit a long time ago. Yet, mostly, I did it on my own and I know these feelings. The doubt that shows up when someone speaks about meditation with a rapturous look in their eyes (um. Really? Sure it helps a lot, but I mostly just tolerate the stupid thoughts in my head…), the frustration & sense of failure when I have yet again fallen asleep within three minutes of starting a meditation or when I realize I literally spent 10 minutes thinking instead of watching. 

It’s only when I invested in the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), an experiential based, teacher-led 8-week program that these insecurities melted into an appreciation of our common humanity. It was through listening to my fellow students that my subconscious mind finally understood – it’s not just me and it’s all okay. The meditation is still working. My meditation practice hasn’t been the same since. 

But enough about me – 

You have a meditation practice to establish & big things to accomplish in this world and I respect you too much not to be real with you. If what I described above resonates,  I humbly invite you to consider signing up for the next MBSR round. You can get all the details here. 

In the meantime, I want you to know three things: 

(1) You’re probably not doing it wrong.

Meditation isn’t always about feeling calm and although sometimes the mind clears (and it’s wonderful), meditation isn’t about clearing your mind, but rather transforming your relationship with your mind. As long as you’re intending to return your attention to the present moment without judging it, you’re not doing it wrong. Actually, you’re doing it rather right!

(2) Mindfulness meditation isn’t always pleasant.

Life is bumpy, messy, wonderful, awful, complicated, simple, boring, overwhelming, weird, funny, … and so if you’re paying attention to the present moment, on purpose, without judgment, your meditation will reflect that. None of it is wrong. 

 (3) Learning mindfulness meditation is hard for everyone.

Doing it together with other human beings, a qualified teacher and a scientifically validated program definitely help. 

ready to give mindfulness meditation a real shot to reduce stress and increase well-being?

then the Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction program (MBSR) is for you. 

During this 8-week program, we will meet in person every week for 8 weeks + one full Saturday between weeks 6 & 7. Each meeting is 2.5 hours except for the retreat which is 6 hours + 1 hour for lunch.

During each of the meetings, you will: receive guidance on mindful meditation, practice meditation (mostly guided), receive insight about the nature of stress in modern times, participate in group explorations of how mindfulness helps reduce stress & explore the challenges of home practice.

In between each group session, the real magic of this program is at work with your home practices. Each week you will be given homework, that consists of between 30 and 45-minutes of mindfulness meditation each day (you will receive recordings to guide you) + other mindfulness based exercises. 

Tell me –

Are you ready to save yourself months of insecurity, frustration and feeling like you’re failing?

 

Sign up the next Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction program. Get all the details here. 

The Next MBSR

The next 8-week Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Program starts on Monday, March 26. Click here for more details.

About Me

I'm Inge Broer, mindfulness meditation teacher. It is my mission to help driven men and women dial back stress & dial up self-care with mindfulness meditation training.